Are You In Pursuit of Happiness?

You have started businesses and jobs only to start a new business or job a couple of years later. Now you beat yourself down because you thought it was a good idea to complete that MBA, PhD, or start that business, and now you are struggling again, forcing yourself to find what you truly enjoy. See you have been trying to fit into a box of what is considered expectable. But you would really like to find your inner passion, but it lost in the shell you have created to look good on the outside.

What is your passion, why do you keep starting over again and again? I am here to tell you that it is a good thing that you have a mind creative enough to explore. Don’t beat yourself down about changing your mind again. Give yourself another chance to find it until you do. (The most successful people in our time failed their way to success through trial and error, but they didn’t give up.)

Here are a few steps I wrote to help you Pursue Your Happiness

1. Before anything, you must first admit to yourself that there is a missing piece or empty void in your life. (What is it? listen for the answer)
2. Except the fact that you have the right to change your mind and change it again if you want to. (now what)
3. Be Passionate about pursuing you passion,
4. What inspires you? What excites you?
5. Be ready for changes that may be uncomfortable at first. How Many Times have you heard “Just Pray About It,” that doesn’t mean be “just be complacent about it”. (I just won’t even go there)
6. Spend sometime meditating and thinking back to when you were a child. What made you feel free and happy?
7. What did you want to be as a child before you or someone’s convinced you that you couldn’t do it.
8. What do you enjoy now when you are not doing your “job”
9. If money and time wasn’t an issue, what you do?
10. Don’t Give Up Pursuing Your Happiness.
Because You Deserve To Have It All

You Are Beautiful ! India Arie

Five Steps for Intuitive Healing

If I told you of my story, I'm pretty sure your response would be something like "Wow!" or "oh my, you have had such a rough life" or, "how did you survive that!!!" Naturally, when emotional events occur in life, most people tend to either shut down to the world, or go the other direction and tell everyone who will listen in hopes of finding comfort, answers, or sympathy. The only issue with that is, sometimes we get addicted to telling the story. ....So what's the problem with that???? you ask.

The problem is, everytime you tell the story, you re-live the event over and over. This can be helpful if, and only if you are telling it to learn and move forward. Healing has to be a conscious effort. Otherwise, you are telling the story because you are addicted to the response. As a result, you are allowing yourself to use the event as a crutch, and you will delay the healing process.

On the other side, suppressing emotions can be even more dangerous. So now what?

After my divorce, I went through what I call the crazy stage, emotions all of the place leading me into a self destructive path, feeling sorry for myself, and telling the story over and over. I had to make a choice to move towards healing. If you are going through a trial in life that has you unbalanced, try these simple steps to regain control of your emotions.

Step 1. Take inventory of your beliefs - Are the empowering or disempowering?

for example, "I am going through this because I did something wrong "- disempowering
or, "I am going to use this experience to grow my wisdom so that I can be happy" - empowering

Step 2. Choose to allow the emotions reveal themselves and then challenge yourself to handle them rationally.
For example, going for a drink to numb the pain is not wisdom. Busting windows out of cars is not wisdom. Going to the self help section in your local bookstore is wisdom.

Step 3. Learn to correct imbalances by seeking wisdom. There is a wealth of information available for correcting imbalances if you seek it.

Step 4. Learn to trust your inner thoughts about a situation.
(that little voice that said "don't do that" and you did it anyway)

Step 5. Keep a journal of your learning process. (You will enjoy reading later).

What's Wrong With Skipping Breakfast?

by Toni Gaines, Certified Personal Trainer
September 1, 2008

If you tend to skip breakfast in the morning, you may be doing yourself and your body more harm than good. During sleep your body burns calories to maintain the necessary bodily functions for life such as breathing, body temperature and heart rate. So upon waking in the morning you need to refuel your tank not only to garner energy, but to jump start your bodies metabolism in addition to providing your brain with fuel for the work day ahead. Skipping breakfast is tough on the body; however skipping breakfast is just as tough on your brain. The brain uses about 20 percent of the bodies’ total energy so it needs fuel….fuel from the intake of good nutrient dense foods. So the next time you decide to skip breakfast, the most important meal of the day, remember you are creating a sluggish metabolism and you are reducing your brains ability to concentration, think clearly and process information at an optimal level for beginning your work day.

Toni Gaines, Certified Personal Trainer
All About The Fitness
(214) 546-8168
www.AllAboutTheFitness.com

Hater/By Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their
time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.

They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever
good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your
blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing
you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be
like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they
have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they
don't know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you
can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us!

Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb
(if he / she isn't about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being
in the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be
on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:

1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are
*(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not
mean having a job. You can have a job and still be
unfulfilled.

A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine
prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your
time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my
life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at
me...Look at Who is in charge of me...

Maya Angelou

Take A Step Forward

Doing the same thing expecting different results is simply insane. Think about it, one single action in your life can make a huge difference in your future. It is impossible to make change without change, just doesn't add up... It is understood that taking action can be difficult, whether it is action that requires your time, effort, or money. But especially when you are not sure if your investment will bring you an immediate or positive outcome. For example, I attended a conference this past without any guarantees or promises. I know that even that small step toward my goals will produce some form of benefit. Don't waste your time focusing on what you can and cannot do, or listening to those who aren't doing anything. Paying something toward your success with action does take effort, but you have the ability to break the cycle of poverty, self- destruction, addiction, etc.. by simply seeking information, making a plan, taking action, and seriously making a decision to stick to it.

No Limit Women's Expo

I will be volunteering at the No Limit Expo tomorrow. It will be held from 10am-4pm. Hope to see some of you there.

For more information on this and event please visit http://nolimitexpo.com