You Are Beautiful ! India Arie

Five Steps for Intuitive Healing

If I told you of my story, I'm pretty sure your response would be something like "Wow!" or "oh my, you have had such a rough life" or, "how did you survive that!!!" Naturally, when emotional events occur in life, most people tend to either shut down to the world, or go the other direction and tell everyone who will listen in hopes of finding comfort, answers, or sympathy. The only issue with that is, sometimes we get addicted to telling the story. ....So what's the problem with that???? you ask.

The problem is, everytime you tell the story, you re-live the event over and over. This can be helpful if, and only if you are telling it to learn and move forward. Healing has to be a conscious effort. Otherwise, you are telling the story because you are addicted to the response. As a result, you are allowing yourself to use the event as a crutch, and you will delay the healing process.

On the other side, suppressing emotions can be even more dangerous. So now what?

After my divorce, I went through what I call the crazy stage, emotions all of the place leading me into a self destructive path, feeling sorry for myself, and telling the story over and over. I had to make a choice to move towards healing. If you are going through a trial in life that has you unbalanced, try these simple steps to regain control of your emotions.

Step 1. Take inventory of your beliefs - Are the empowering or disempowering?

for example, "I am going through this because I did something wrong "- disempowering
or, "I am going to use this experience to grow my wisdom so that I can be happy" - empowering

Step 2. Choose to allow the emotions reveal themselves and then challenge yourself to handle them rationally.
For example, going for a drink to numb the pain is not wisdom. Busting windows out of cars is not wisdom. Going to the self help section in your local bookstore is wisdom.

Step 3. Learn to correct imbalances by seeking wisdom. There is a wealth of information available for correcting imbalances if you seek it.

Step 4. Learn to trust your inner thoughts about a situation.
(that little voice that said "don't do that" and you did it anyway)

Step 5. Keep a journal of your learning process. (You will enjoy reading later).