Sexual vs. Sensual Relationships

In my quest for balance, knowledge, and growth on many levels, I often find the topic of sexuality and sensuality to be one that is difficult to fit in to a box only because of our various dogmas and perceptions. But I feel knowing who you really are on a intimate level is just as an important topic to explore as any other along your journey, especially when it comes to relationships. Lately I have been thinking about the difference between the two and how they affect the relationships we encounter. Now if you are lucky, you do not need this information because you have found your true mate and you connect on every level and it will last forever, but for the rest of us…read on.

I hear so many people say they have never experienced the feeling of true love but have either been married, are married, or are in relationships. For some reason they just can’t seem to grasp a deeper level of intimacy beyond sex. Now, the media and social sites are filled with men and women in compromising positions showing their very best assets to the world in hopes of finding love. As a result, our culture has ultimately adopted a depiction of sensuality as a purely “visual” experience, and we choose our mates in the same fashion. Because our attraction to one another has become an entirely visual experience, we fail to engage the whole mind, body, and spirit when choosing a partner. We tend to settle for what is appealing to the eye, or the “surface appearance” (they say it’s less complicated that way, so conversation is very limited at this point).

Now to go even further, the visual is only one of our five senses, and with a distorted emphasis on the value of a physical image, we tend to pay less and less attention to the other four senses thus the true art of sensuality is fading.
Now with that being said, what is the difference between a sexual and a sensual relationship? well, a sensual connection is about two people relating through all five senses rather than one, this is often where you find love. So can a predominantly sexual person and a predominantly sensual person have a fulfilling relationship? My answer would be no, but there are exceptions to everything. My reasoning would be that a sensual person will always long for more depth than a sexual person is capable of providing.

Be You…Conscious